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Remember the RV

2013-08-09 01.57.5518 months ago our family did a whirlwind trip through the US.  We had been planning it for a year and wanted to see as many supporters of ours as we could, plus it had been four years since our family had been back.  We put the word out that we were coming and were honestly shocked at how many responded!  REALLY?  THAT many people were willing to host our family of 9???

Wow.  It was exciting to see God orchestrate our journey and everything come together.  Three weeks before Todd left, almost everything was in place.   He was going to take a few counseling classes first before the family joined him.  I wrote the rental agency where we had reserved a van 10 months previously to ask how Todd should pick up our van.  It had been a LOT of work to find a vehicle large enough that we could take all over the US that was also in our budget, but this was the very first item that I had  done.

I was stunned when I got the reply, “We no longer have that van available.  It has been out of service for 4 months.”  I remained calm while I asked about a replacement and what they were going to do to help us out.  After all, we had purchased our international tickets to and from Philadelphia counting on this van.

“We have nothing else.  You will have to look for something.”

“WHAT???”  I was stunned.  They had known for four months, not contacted us and now told us they could not help us out.

I really lost it.  I could not believe that the days of planning and organizing were now for naught and we no longer had a vehicle.   Todd was flying in 2 weeks and we were supposed to start our trip in 4 weeks.   I really felt that God had forgotten about our family.  I also did not have the faith that God could provide something for us in 2 weeks. . . What were we going to do?

The emails, letters, Facebook pleas, calls all brought about no leads.  We did not have the money for a vehicle purchase.   I felt desperate and scared and angry.  Suddenly, I remembered that I was part of a forum for large families and put our request out there as well–at least I knew these families had larger cars!

Unexpectedly we got an email from a family in Georgia who had an RV (Yup, an RV.  Exactly what we had wanted for our family to travel in, not a van).  They had seven kids as well and felt the Lord nudging them to loan it to us.  Hmmm, but the RV was in Georgia.  How were we going to pick it up?  Once again, God worked out the details.  The father of the RV drove it up to us in PA and flew up at the end of the summer and picked it up.  He did not know us, but God moved his heart to help.

The RV was an amazing reminder to us the entire summer of God’s provision, above and beyond what we had expected.  It made our trip much easier and gave a kids a place to sleep and hang out so as not to overwhelm our guests with all 9 of us.

As we look ahead to transitioning to Thailand, I am again fearful, not trusting, not seeing how God can work out all of these details.  We need to sign up our kids for German school and pay a large registration fee per child (5,000 dollars per child for tuition).  We do not have this right now.  I panicked last night, unsure as to how this is going to work, not trusting.

But then I remembered the RV, my panic and fear and lack of trust . . . and looked back and saw how God provided just at the right time.

Please pray for our family to remember what God has done and how he has provided for us the last 21 years and that we will simply trust Him to provide for us today.

Running for Office or Being a Missionary?

In Martin Luther’s hometown during an exhibit preparing to celebrate the Reformation.  

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Watching glimpses of the last campaign–as I watched a candidate get grilled about his past, his positions, pretty much everything I considered to be fairly private and personal. . . I felt myself identifying with him and empathizing.  You see, being a missionary on support is a lot like being in politics.  Here are some of the similarities:

1. Our life is not our own:  We have been questioned about everything from birth control, vacation time, what is an appropriate family size?, budget, finances, free time, further schooling to name a few.  Some of the questions, I would never even ask my best friend, but since we are on support, everyone feels that it is their right to ask.  How should I respond graciously to these questions?  How much should people know?  My problem is that since I want to be transparent, I go into my defensive mode:

  • Yes, we did go to Switzerland on vacation last year. . . 
  • But–it was only 90 minutes away.  And we were offered a free place to stay for doing a bit of ministry.  We did some hiking, but it was just one day.
  •  I feel I need to justify everything that we have done, and this makes me want to stop sharing what we do.

2. There will always be someone who does not agree with what we are doing.

  • Some people think we have too many children, others think we are wrong in not having more.
  • Some think we should be homeschooling (even though it is against the law), others think we should not have our kids at Black Forest Academy.
  • Some think we should only be doing overt aggressive evangelism.  Others think we should be working with solely with missionary kids.
  • Some want Debbie only at home with the children.  Others want Debbie in a part-time ministry role.
  • People wish we would visit the US more often.  Others are upset we spend money on flights back to the US.
  • Some feel our support is too low.  Others feel are budget it too high especially since we have a large family.
  • Some think furlough is an extended vacation.  Others think our furlough (HMA) is too stressful and we should take more vacation time during it.

Living with someone always disappointed or frustrated with you is wearing, and reminds me a bit of growing up as a pastor’s daughter.

3. The MONEY–I LOVE that my kids are learning to depend on God daily for HIS provision.  I HATE feeling “beholden” to  people for what they give us.  It is hard to have an open honest talk with supporters when you are dependent on their support.    Someotimes I find myself being quiet or not engaging them specifically on issues knowing that we would not agree and wanting them to keep believing in me and supporting me.  How can I be myself with others and not “shade” what I say so that they will continue to believe in us?  It is a hard balance to find.

In the end, what encourages me is a quote from former CIU President, Roberston McQuilkin.  “It is easier to go to a consistent extreme than to live in the center of biblical tension.”  We are living “in the middle” of tension.  When people on both sides of the fence are disappointed, then we must be somewhere in the middle and sometimes getting it right.

“Obviously, I’m not trying to win the approval of people, but of God. If pleasing people were my goal, I would not be Christ’s servant.”  Gal. 1: 10  NLT

Why Europe? The most reached and the least evangelical continent.

Occasionally we get questions about why we are serving in Germany.   “They already have the gospel,” say some.  Others say,”Wow, it’s like being on vacation year round.”  Although we enjoy the richness of history and beauty we live in, we aren’t here for that.  In fact, living only 20 minutes from Switzerland and France, we have been so busy (or sick) that we have seen very little of the typical attractions in our area.

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We are here because God led us here.

We are here because we already had learned German.

We are here to build bridges between the Germans and N. Americans in our area.

We are here to establish relationships and friendships with those around us showing love and grace in all we do.

Click on this link to get a well-informed article on the importance of missions work in Europe.

Europe is the hardest country to raise support for as many do not see it is a legitimate mission field.

In fact,  few months ago, we found out that we were losing one of our supporters due to the location of our ministry.  We were no longer in alignment with the vision this supporter had of reaching the unreached.  In other words, we were not living and working within the 10/40 window.  For those who do not know, the 10/40 window refers to a geographical location where the majority of the unreached people live in the world.  Missionaries going to these locations (that are exotic and often challenging places to live) usually have a fairly easy time to raise support.  In fact, a friend of ours serving in the 10/40 window  (whose support budget was double ours) said that they never struggled in support raising and usually had a surplus in their budget.

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The history of Christianity is evidenced by the steeples that tower over the houses in most villages.  The church is everywhere, do people here really need missionaries?

Although Europe may be the “least unreached,” Europe is the “least evangelical.”  The following chart shows the percentage of evangelicals in different continents in the world.

Europe                       4% evangelical

Asia                             6% evangelical

North America           13% evangelical

South America           27% evangelical

Africa                          25% evangelical

(taken from Olson–US, OW–Rest).

Here’s some more information about why missionaries are so important in Europe and some disturbing trends that are occurring.

The following information was taken from a longer article called:
“Why Invest in Europe?”

God used John Wesley 270 years ago to start a spiritual awakening. The Great Awakening in England, from 1740 to 1850, provides an uncanny historical parallel for the Developing World‟s evangelicalism from 1900 to 2000, and it also helps us to understand Europe‟s current condition.

Wesley did not prepare the church for the intellectual challenges that eventually destroyed it. His focus was on popular evangelism, spiritual growth for believers, and cultural change.  But he neglected to prepare the English church for three devastating intellectual earthquakes:

  1. Enlightenment philosophy
  2. Skeptical biblical criticism
  3. Darwinian naturalism

The basic worldview convictions of evangelicals who were being educated in these academic centers of Enlightenment thought were undermined. This process subtly pushes believers toward the untenable position of having one foot on their Christian worldview with the other foot on the Enlightenment worldview – with the two slowly being pulled apart. In this situation believers felt a cognitive dissonance and as a result were tempted to accept one of these alternatives:

a)      Convert to agnosticism.

b)      Adopt much of the Enlightenment‟s worldview, but seek to retain Christian terminology in what came to be called „liberal    theology‟.

c)      Retreat into a fidelism, or privatized faith, and reject the idea that Christians are called to persuasively communicate why the Gospel is true.

All three of these occurred. Many Christians became agnostics, others became liberals seeking to keep the Christian language, but without its historic content, and those who remained orthodox often withdrew from the world in pietistic huddles in their attempts to remain faithful. As a result, all the English church denominations have been declining over the last 150 years.

In short, the English evangelical church failed in these critical areas:

  • Doing the difficult work of building intellectual leaders (spiritual oak trees) to protect the evangelical laity (spiritual ivy) from the storm of unbelief.
  • Developing an adequate apologetic response to the intellectual challenges.
  • Loving God by mentoring the most academically gifted younger believers to develop their callings as faithful Christian researchers, teachers and writers.

 Europe is a critical mission field because of the following:

  1. Europe is the intellectual center of the world.
  2. Europe is the leading educator of the rest of the world.
  3. The fastest-growing religion in the world (Unbelief) comes from Europe.
  4. Europe is the place where the global battle for the Gospel is being fought.

The growth of unbelief (atheism and agnosticism) is the fastest-growing religion in the 20th century. In 1900, atheism had approximately 225,000 adherents worldwide, and 90 percent of them lived in Europe. By 2000 this small group had grown to more than 150 million worldwide – but only 18 percent of these unbelievers live in Europe. What started as a European intellectual movement has become a worldwide tidal wave.

Leaders of the church in Europe and around the world, need to pray for and work to raise up the next generation of European evangelical leaders who will confidently live their faith, communicate the Gospel with power and conviction, faithfully lead evangelical churches, schools, denominations and organizations, and give their very lives for the Gospel. This European movement is desperately needed for Europe and for the world.

Doing the ‘D’

 One of my favorite pictures of me and my 7 kids!  We did 4 museums and much more in a day in DC. 

The expressions and comments as I have told people I am working on my doctorate have been astounding.  Some place me on the pillar of ultra-super-Mom (the maternal equivalent of a triathalon finisher).  Others shake their head in disbelief simply confounded that anyone would WANT to study this long for another degree.  And then others have been outright critical, “How can you ever leave your children?”  “It is wrong of you to put Todd under this pressure.”  In other words. . . you are a bad mother and wife if you pursue this.

Few stop to engage me and to find out my story–how God opened the door and keeps nudging me through.  It started with a chapel message I gave at the AWM–Akademie fuer Weltmission.  Afterwards, a staff member approached me and challenged me to consider joining their new doctoral program–a Doctor of Education in International Theological Education.  I told them it was crazy while I was rocking my 6th child, a 6 week old newborn.  But, Todd and I prayed and God answered.  I applied for a grant from Sweden and very surprisingly got it.  Todd took vacation for my first class and everything went very well.  Then a few months later, we moved to Germany, now only a train ride rather than a flight from my home.  And best of all, our new mission changed their name and focus right after we joined them–to education.  Suddenly, I had not only support from Todd, but also from our mission.  They were excited that I was doing this degree and even allowed Todd the freedom to be at home when I was gone studying.  My grant ran out in August 2012, but I just news that Sweden is still going to give me the grant–possibly through the rest of my courses.

I will start my dissertation this January.  I am hoping to be done by June 2015, but am also holding this lightly.  I don’t know what will come or happen.  This degree is done out of obedience and I will keep pursuing it as long as God keeps the door open.  Here are some thoughts that I have had as I look to writing my dissertation.

As I approach this stage of my studies with my dissertation, I am torn. Part of me wants to be able to justify the crazy amount of time that I will spend on this—to know that the hours I missed out of life were worth it and that my dissertation will be meaningful and be read again. It really isn’t so much about being known or published, but making what I do worth the time and sacrifice. I have been privileged to be able to use most of my papers and projects to address specific needs that our mission had. I would love for my dissertation to meet a need, address an issue, solve a problem, or at least raise awareness of a critical situation. I don’t want to get it bound only to gather dust.

Yet, the other side of me is paralyzed by the fear of getting in over my head. “Make it doable.” “Get the ‘D’ as soon as you can so that you can get on with life.” “The ‘D’ will open doors for you for so many things, but only if you finish it.” “Do NOT make the ‘D’ your lifework.” The pragmatic side of me who is already overwhelmed with being a pastor’s wife, mom of 7 living in a foreign country wants to walk the easy road guilt-free. Rather than looking for what I want or am interested in, I want to ask, “What’s the easiest form of research?” “How can I finish as soon as possible?” I just want to say to my committee, “What is the least I can do to get this degree done?” I have real work and important things for our mission to do. Global kingdom work that is postponed each day that I spend on my ‘D’.

In the end it is all about balance. Doing my best in the time I have while maintaining the other tasks God has given me with joy. (Since the time I have is limited, this won’t become my life’s work, although I want to do well!). It is also about taking a few minutes a day to think, reflect and write. Like title of one of Eugene Peterson’s books doing the ‘D’ is a Long Obedience in the Same Direction. If I take a step each day, it will get done. If I lay aside MY desire to make this the most-read thought-provoking dissertation ever, I will finish. At the end of the day, I want to hit send. And move on with life. And use the ‘D’ for God’s work—to open doors to share the gospel, to gain admittance to places I wouldn’t be invited without it.

Gracelyn Discovers Nutella

Gracelyn discovers Nutella from Debbie Kramlich on Vimeo.

Kids Flip Out

On the beach. . .

Kids flip out at beach from Debbie Kramlich on Vimeo.

Avoiding Bed

Ian and Joya rewrote the words to a song in an attempt to be able to stay up later that night! (It worked!).

Avoiding Bed from Debbie Kramlich on Vimeo.

Recorder Trio–Share Conference

Tyler had 5 years of recorder lessons and then started teaching his siblings. Here are Tyler, Ian and Joya playing at Share Conference 2008.

Ian juggle soccer ball

Here Ian is practicing juggling the ball. . . I think he gets 121 times.

Ian juggles ball from Debbie Kramlich on Vimeo.

Gracelyn sings Adele

Joya has been practicing an Adele song with violin and voice and Gracelyn has been listening. . . we caught her singing her own version of Adele. . .

Gracelyn sings Adele from Debbie Kramlich on Vimeo.